Well, it finally happened…..Evan called me a “Mean Mommy!”. He didn’t say it in anger or with a raised voice. That would actually have been easier to take. Instead it was while we were cuddling before bedtime. He said “Can we play sock monkeys and bears again tomorrow?” I said “Sure” Then he said
“Could you not be mean to me tomorrow?”
Wha????
After some prodding he said I was mean to him when I “yelled at him”. I asked if he remembered why I yelled. Of course he didn’t.
We’ve been butting heads lately because he will ask me for something, I will say “no” and then he will keep asking and refusing to acknowledge my “no”. It drives Dewey and I nuts. Especially when I say no to something and he then says “But STILL, I can *insert what he was asking for/to do here*”. So, I explained to him again why he was in trouble tonight. Not sure it will sink in.
Regardless, he feels persecuted, I feel frustrated. Definitely a lose/lose.
I swear….kids should come with an instruction manual!
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Hah, don’t feel too bad. As soon as I tell Kohen that something that he doesn’t like ie pick up your legos – he tells me he is “angry at me”. I am pretty sure he has told me I’m being mean to him too, I have just blocked it out:) Hang in there, its a phase (I hope!).
Yeah…Evan mistakenly determined that he is the boss in our house. Um…no. I hope it’s a phase too!
this sounds very familiar. it’s the “but….” after the no. and he won’t stop. the mornings when we are running out to get the bus and he keeps insisting that he wants to bring a toy to school and the worst. add whining to that and you can see why my hair is grey and thinning.
Hey Merry. It’s ok to be a mean mommy sometimes I think because then they learn that they can’t always have everything they want when they want it. Life is hard and those that don’t have a “mean” mommy sometimes growing up have no respect for anyone when they get bigger. I have a 3 yr old that thinks I’m a mean mommy quite regularly because he has to pick up toys and eat vegetables. It’s all a phase of trying to test the waters and making you feel guilty so you will bend and give in. Stay strong, this too shall pass!!!
Enjoy your break and come back refreshed! That’s all you can do.
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We too are experiencing the lack of listening skills in our 5 year old.
We have to tell her multiple times no, and she still does not listen. So now I have told her there are consequences to not listening (taking away a toy she likes for a specific amount of time) – and when this happens I remind her that she is not listening to me and what is going to happen if she continues to not listen.
I have noticed it seems to just be a phase she is going through – same thing happend back in September when she started school.
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When he is older, he will realize that being mean sometimes just showed him how much you really do love him.
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